Saturday, February 24, 2007

Who pays?

Ok, so I haven't posted in a while, but I have been very busy lately. I am having the semester from hell, and have homework coming out of my ears. I also recently have acquired a boyfriend. This has brought up all sorts of interesting issues for me. Recently we were out at one of my favorite bars, it was his first time with me there. I introduced my friends including the bartender to my boyfriend. So then we went up to get drinks and we both set our money up at the bar. The bartender takes the money for both of our drinks out of my boyfriends money and looks at him and says that he "likes to see a woman treated like one." Well, this was a little uncomfortable for me, my boyfriend just thought it was funny, but I just kind of ignored and moved on with the night. Later on in the night I went up to buy us both another drink and the bartender told me that "my man" should be up there paying for us, not me. I told him that my boyfriend had bought me plenty of drinks that night and that it was my turn, and he told me that if he was a decent guy I shouldn't have to spend a dime. At this point I just rolled my eyes and walked away. The bartender is a friend of mine, but that really bothers me. . . It is 2007, I think we can get past the whole guy has to pay thing.

Shortly after this situation, my mother was asking me if we were in a relationship, or if we were just seeing each other. Then she told me that the way to tell if we were in a real relationship was whether or not he payed for me. This just shocked the you-know-what out of me. This is coming from my mother, who was the one who taught me about feminism.

Ug... what a weird couple weeks