Saturday, July 28, 2007
For the lazy/busy feminist
I just ran across this article entitled 15 Daily Feminist Activities, it gives great ideas on how to be active in your feminism without having to spend lots of money or time, which are things that most of us don't have enough of anyway. Anyway, I know I am guilty for not being real active in most of my activism at times, so I really liked this article, It's short, so please take the time to check it out!
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
Equal Parenting
Since I am a single mom, and the father chooses not to be a significant part of my son's life, people love to tell me about the importance of equal parenting. Or in other words, having both parents in a child's life. Well I think it would be a wonderful thing for every child to have two loving, responsible, and attentive biological parents, this is not always the case.
In our case the father chooses not to be a part of my son's life, and now I've come to accept it. He is not the best role model, nor is he stable, and is incredibly self centered. Yet people keep telling me how I am somehow ruining my son's chances to be successful if his biological father is not in his life. I have a question for them: How can I force someone to step up, when they have repeatedly made it clear that they are not interested in the whole "father role." And really why would I want someone who is constantly a bad influence and negative role model as a regular fixture in my son's life???
I do however believe that children need both male and female role models in their lives, and they need to be stable and constant. However just because one biological parent cannot or will not play that part does not automatically damn the child into being unsuccessful in life. Although my son's biological father is not in his life he has several constant, stable, and responsible male role models that are significant parts of his life. He has just as much of a chance of living a happy and successful life as a kid with two parents, and no one can convince me otherwise.
Check out the book, Raising Boys Without Men: How Maverick Moms are Raising the Next Generation of Exceptional Men, by Peggy Drexler and Linden Gross. I read it about 6 months ago and really found it useful.
In our case the father chooses not to be a part of my son's life, and now I've come to accept it. He is not the best role model, nor is he stable, and is incredibly self centered. Yet people keep telling me how I am somehow ruining my son's chances to be successful if his biological father is not in his life. I have a question for them: How can I force someone to step up, when they have repeatedly made it clear that they are not interested in the whole "father role." And really why would I want someone who is constantly a bad influence and negative role model as a regular fixture in my son's life???
I do however believe that children need both male and female role models in their lives, and they need to be stable and constant. However just because one biological parent cannot or will not play that part does not automatically damn the child into being unsuccessful in life. Although my son's biological father is not in his life he has several constant, stable, and responsible male role models that are significant parts of his life. He has just as much of a chance of living a happy and successful life as a kid with two parents, and no one can convince me otherwise.
Check out the book, Raising Boys Without Men: How Maverick Moms are Raising the Next Generation of Exceptional Men, by Peggy Drexler and Linden Gross. I read it about 6 months ago and really found it useful.
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